Be honest, how much of your relationship do you expect to work like your favorite romantic movie? Do you secretly long for your spouse to complete your sentences, read your mind, agree with your perspectives and suggestions, readily make love to you on demand and just plain get you? Think about it. Wouldn’t life work best if the love of your life simply did what you want the way you want without you asking?

But low and behold your perfectly reasonable calculations don’t seem to add up. You awaken from your day dream only to discover that your spouse thinks differently and (actually thinks your idea(s) suck on occasion), sometimes thinks you are crazy and can’t seem to figure...